Monday, August 9, 2010

Dear Momma of Two

Dear Momma of Two,

You are probably exhausted and not sure what to think of this crazy new transition into motherhood. Here are a few things I want to remind you of...
- You are doing a great job. Remember you will make mistakes, forget things, wish you had done things differently, but don’t beat yourself up over it. Your babies are learning too and you’re not going to damage them. You are all learning together.
- This time will pass quickly. The feelings of helplessness, extreme exhaustion will not last forever. They will only be this tiny for a short time. Enjoy how cute and little they are... it will go by fast and you’ll wish for these days back. Try to stop and take in these moments. They will be gone before you know it.
- Sleep when you can. Don’t worry about having everything perfect around the house and organized. You don’t have to have it all together. Others are here to help you and a well rested momma is best for everyone.
- Make sure you are eating and drinking enough. Good nutrition will help give you the energy you need to get through the day. You can’t feed your babies if you have nothing to give them.
- Take time for yourself. Go for a short walk, sit outside, catch your breath, take a shower or bath. Dry your hair, put on a little make up, whatever feels good. It is okay to have a little you-time. Don’t feel guilty! It is better for everyone.
- Ask for help and accept any that is offered to you. Don’t feel bad about others doing your dishes, your laundry, feeding babies, changing diapers or bringing you a meal. People are happy to help and will make a huge difference in your sanity.
- Try to have a sense of humour and laugh every day. It is good for your body and your soul. Being a mom is the most important job in the world, but don’t take it all too seriously.
- Appreciate your husband and all of his hard work buy don’t feel guilty about him doing it. You’re working hard too. Remember to thank him and let him know what it means to you. Ask him what his transition to being a dad is like and figure out what he needs. Take time, even a few minutes each day, to be alone together. There is no other relationship that is more important in your life.
- Remember it’s okay to cry. You will have bad moments and days and it’s better to let those emotions out and talk it through with those who will listen and you trust. You don’t have to pretend you have it all together. Don’t forget that not every day will be like this, but it’s okay to feel sad, angry or frustrated sometimes. Get help if it doesn’t go away.
- Tell people what you need. If you can’t handle more visitors, shut the door and be honest. People will meet your babies eventually and they will understand.
- Take lots of pictures and write down little things you want to remember. These days will feel like a blur and you’ll be glad to have those things to look back on.
- Remember to thank God daily for the two beautiful gifts he’s given you. You didn’t have an easy road getting here and not everyone gets this far. Being a mom is a privilege, one that you get to experience. You were made to do this.
- This is an adventure. There will be highs and lows and lots of in-betweens. Have fun and enjoy the ride!!